Things Women Think They Want In A Man — But They Don't

It can be kind of flattering when your partner expresses a little bit of possessiveness. Maybe he saw you laughing really hard at another dude's joke, or perhaps he saw you chatting with a cute co-worker on your way out the door to happy hour. If he asked about it, got an answer, then let it go, that's fine! But if he was questioning and accusatory, that might be a sign of some darker tendencies.

Kimberly Hershenson, a New York City based relationship therapist, told me, "Woman often think jealousy is a sign of love. If your partner doesn't want you socializing with others and is constantly questioning where you are or who you are with, this is not a sign of love but a red flag that this relationship is going in the wrong direction."

So how he handles jealousy is the key, here. And there really is nothing wrong with him being a little envious once in a while; we all feel it sometimes. But if he starts to interrogate you, accuse you of lying, or control your movements, that's a sign that he's bad news, and not the kind of man you want to be with.